Myth: Choosing adoption means I do not love my child.
Fact: Persons who consider adoption are motivated by selfless love and concern for their child. Most people make an adoption plan because they feel that their child’s needs will be best met through adoption, and are putting the child’s needs above their own.
Myth: I got myself into this; I need to be responsible and keep my baby.
Fact: Exploring your options demonstrates taking responsibility for yourself and your child. Knowing all of your options will empower you to make a decision that is right for you and your child.
Myth: If I choose adoption, I will never see my child again.
Fact: You can select a range of openness, or level of contact with the adoptive family, which is right for you and your child. You can meet the family and have a level of contact with them that is right for you.
Myth: If I choose adoption, I will feel regret, grief, and guilt.
Fact: There are losses in adoption that can cause grief, which can be worked through with your counselor. Looking back, you should have peace of mind and no regrets, knowing that you made the right decision for your child.
Myth: My friends and family would think badly of me if I choose adoption.
Fact: Many people are unfamiliar with adoption and are not sure how they feel about it. If you feel confident in your adoption plan, you can educate those around you about your decision.
Myth: The birthfather does not care about me or the baby.
Fact: His lack of involvement may not mean that he does not care. Birthfathers may be unsure of how they feel about adoption, and unsure of their role in decision making. They are welcome to be part of the process and be supported through it as well.
Myth: Most adoptive parents are unfit.
Fact: Despite sensational stories in the media, adoptive parents are as fit as biological parents. They are often more mature and have a strong desire to become parents. They are carefully screened and prepared before being approved to adopt.
Myth: Adoption damages the child.
Fact: Many studies have shown that adopted children do as well, or better, than their non-adopted peers.